tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post7551293629982240419..comments2023-10-31T21:16:53.536+05:30Comments on Bangalore Katte Boyz page (Authentic): Man, Woman and UnderstandingVidyaShankar Harapanahallihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-14920117434507514342009-05-06T07:58:00.000+05:302009-05-06T07:58:00.000+05:30I cant say much on this but I strongly agree with ...I cant say much on this but I strongly agree with most of it... Of course this is what I have heard and this is what I was expecting after marriage... On the contrary we understand and compliment each other pretty well atleast that what she tells my nmom all the timeAtmaramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05090785270834442898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-39012599629768439402009-05-04T14:37:00.000+05:302009-05-04T14:37:00.000+05:30VSS, I frankly think from a family perspective, th...VSS, I frankly think from a family perspective, there is nothing special in Man or Woman. I tried to highlight this using the "Who is the Boss?" article. There is NO BOSS. Both have responsibilities, and they need to deliver on the responsibilities for effective functioning of family. <br /><br />Historically "Man has external facing responsibility" and "Woman has internal responsibility". With the change in world, today, it is more of both can be external /internal is the structure which is getting adapted.Madhukar Hebbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209794588169555167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-85925044784115159702009-05-04T13:20:00.000+05:302009-05-04T13:20:00.000+05:30thanks for all your thoughts.
Thanks Janani, it ...thanks for all your thoughts. <br /><br />Thanks Janani, it feels nice to be appreciated for my theory :-)<br /><br />Some clarifications, <br /><br />Critic, I think this phrase is generally used (movies/books/people), most cases to describe the examples you have given. When the article says "not understanding", it doesn't mean 0% understanding. It is relative in comparison to the man understanding the woman.<br /><br />How did I come to the conclusion? - This is through the reasoning I have provided in the article. Interestingly, this article I started with the question, and I wrote along as I thought about the reasons and answers.<br /><br />VSS, I think we are in a transition phase of change in social structure. 1000's of years of family structure cannot change in years, and hence some families are still Men earning types. But as I wrote this article I realised, we are moving towards the change in rapid speed.Madhukar Hebbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209794588169555167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-52900942699677032112009-05-04T12:34:00.000+05:302009-05-04T12:34:00.000+05:30My Random thought after reading your article....
...My Random thought after reading your article....<br /><br />Father is head of the family, but Mother is heart of the family. Its is taken for granted that Mother has to understand all in the family.<br /><br />Economics are important factor in determining "who understands whom better"<br /><br />Earning member of the family (mostly men in olden days, now also men dominate in numbers) get special attention for obvious reasons and probably that person may assume that he/she needs to be understood that other way...VidyaShankar Harapanahallihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-3017501143139133822009-05-02T12:32:00.000+05:302009-05-02T12:32:00.000+05:30okie. I disagree with the statement which says tha...okie. I disagree with the statement which says that a wife understands her husband and husband says "I can’t understand my wife". A typical husband may say my wife is silly, she argues too much. He says my wife spends money on too much unnecessary stuff. He can also say I dont understand why she takes so much time for makeup even though she is married. But never or rather rarely does any husband say, I don’t understand my wife. In fact saying such a thing after marriage is a tragedy since the basic foundation of marriage between a man and woman is trust and understanding. So questioning the basic tenet of understanding such an everlasting relationship will lead to a disaster.<br />BTW, how did you come to this conclusion about understanding? By books or movies or by observing few people. Even if you have seen people saying that, no husband really means it by heart. He is just talking about the wife is a lighter moment. If any husband says that he cannot understand his wife in the real sense, probably there is a serious problem with their relationship.Critichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07943033904634546781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-59755902130143661202009-05-02T09:03:00.000+05:302009-05-02T09:03:00.000+05:30This comment has been removed by the author.Critichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07943033904634546781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-8885057535514351302009-05-01T18:54:00.000+05:302009-05-01T18:54:00.000+05:30Reading this article and the other one - Who is th...Reading this article and the other one - Who is the boss? (though this sounded a little chauvanistic) - it appears like you are championing the cause of women!!! ha ha :)<br /><br />Jokes apart, i liked your line of reasoning. On similar lines many women say "I just dont understand this finance thingy. This tax calculation and managing my savings/money is just beyond me" I havent heard any man saying this. I guess this statement can also be justified using your logic. Though women also earn as much as men these days and have the same career growth as that of men, you will still find many women depending on their dad or husband to look after their finance. As a woman, though i am not surprised with this reaction because i have heard it from many of my friends (women) and i can understand (though not relate to it); i attribute this to the fact that somewhere the thought process of the woman taking care of the family and the man supporting the family's monetary needs has been passed down through the generations and though the social structure has changed today, the thought process remains!<br /><br />However the above statement is not made by ALL women but i can say that i have heard it from quite a few. This is just to indemnify myself in case somebody decides to sue me for making such a strong accusation against womanhood!! :) ....."Dad! Somebody has just sued me for making a harmless statement. What should i do next?" :-)<br /><br />Good article!Annonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16458597412480299101noreply@blogger.com