tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post476158947627084857..comments2023-10-31T21:16:53.536+05:30Comments on Bangalore Katte Boyz page (Authentic): Old Secret for a New MarriageVidyaShankar Harapanahallihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-77084780824349576512009-02-25T11:07:00.000+05:302009-02-25T11:07:00.000+05:30When the relationship starts. both parties accept ...When the relationship starts. both parties accept the other party AS-IS. I attribute this as a reason for the sizzle in start of relationship. There is an unknown, there is a new perspective from the mate, there is a secret, etc. etc.<BR/><BR/>As the relationship starts getting mature, typically people concentrate on "US" and compromise the needs of "Me" and "you". The thrill of unknown is dead because there is no "Individual Needs" and the sizzle wares down. <BR/><BR/>Another way to look at this is, "US" is always dependent on "Me" and "You" to evolve. It doesn't have independent power. If "US" becomes prominent in a relationship then the "Me" and "you" needs are compromised, hence doesn't evolve and the way of life slows down. The sizzle wares down. <BR/><BR/>All views please...Madhukar Hebbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209794588169555167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-70053157563092201162009-02-25T10:17:00.000+05:302009-02-25T10:17:00.000+05:30Hebbar, whats the last line about fizzing out??VSS...Hebbar, whats the last line about fizzing out??<BR/><BR/>VSS, Thanks<BR/><BR/>Atma, phew..that was pretty strong mate...I think kids make the couple complete. In the west kids have their own 'space' very early. This is good in one way, gives 'The Couple' more time, but I think it reduces attachment at a base level. The ownership towards family is non-existent. <BR/><BR/>We got to strike a balance, if we have joint families, we got to have the courage to tell someone at home to take care of the kids while we take our wife out. The most difficult thing about it is to to show them that you care for you spouse. Most of us are not bold enough to show affection. <BR/>If its nuclear families, got to improvise, day care centers on a saturday perhaps or a neighbour you trust etc. while the couple are out shopping,Shettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157189780186398683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-38481415307098280812009-02-25T07:49:00.000+05:302009-02-25T07:49:00.000+05:30Good one, nice story mate. I liked the concept of ...Good one, nice story mate. I liked the concept of husband, wife and the couple<BR/>In marriage i think the kids are the problem<BR/>They are the ones which create havoc in a sweet couples life. <BR/>I strongly believe, kids bring more misery than happiness.<BR/>I guess kids cant do much if the couple are strong enough to withstand the pressureAtmaramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05090785270834442898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-38834605176950581562009-02-24T21:16:00.000+05:302009-02-24T21:16:00.000+05:30Good one!Very well written... initially I thought ...Good one!<BR/><BR/>Very well written... initially I thought it was forwarded email...VidyaShankar Harapanahallihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-54726075648640077122009-02-24T11:32:00.000+05:302009-02-24T11:32:00.000+05:30Nice definition mate. Agree with you 100%. I think...Nice definition mate. Agree with you 100%. I think the definition is true for every relationship, not just for marriage. But the problem is more pronounced in a relationship like marriage I guess. <BR/><BR/>As you have defined, typical reason for frustration in friendship, Office, parents etc. can be attributed to not understanding the boundary of You, Me and Us. <BR/><BR/>I think the general society gives a lot of importance to "US", ignoring "you" and "me". Probably this is the reason initial sizzle of any relationship wares down after a period of time.Madhukar Hebbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209794588169555167noreply@blogger.com