tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post1601707223516672877..comments2023-10-31T21:16:53.536+05:30Comments on Bangalore Katte Boyz page (Authentic): What is the need for marriage?VidyaShankar Harapanahallihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-46954507442445996682009-03-07T07:43:00.000+05:302009-03-07T07:43:00.000+05:30My comments would be similar to the comments alrea...My comments would be similar to the comments already there. I would like to add that marriage satisfies the need to have someone who will stand by you in good and bad times.<BR/>Sex thats a different topic brother - marriage or no marriageAtmaramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05090785270834442898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-67575141229555972322008-12-01T14:05:00.000+05:302008-12-01T14:05:00.000+05:30Vinay,You are right. After the 'new arrival' relat...Vinay,<BR/><BR/>You are right. After the 'new arrival' relationship and priorities change drastically...<BR/><BR/>Being a parent highly rewarding and taxing at the same time. At least in the initial stage. but kid do repay all that within initial five years with all their cuteness, innocence and play.<BR/><BR/>You will regain your childhood again. AND YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR PARENTS AND THEIR PERSPECTIVE BETTER.VidyaShankar Harapanahallihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-19291790349235033352008-12-01T11:13:00.000+05:302008-12-01T11:13:00.000+05:30Thanks for detailed responses all. Made me realise...Thanks for detailed responses all. Made me realise some of the flaws in the writing... thanks again,<BR/><BR/>Vinay, my attempt to define marriage was as unity between 2 people rather than societies perspective. article terms live-in relationship also as marriage. <BR/><BR/>point 1 is defined as emotional need. read third party perspective also. i tried to define the emotional need from third party.<BR/><BR/>point 2 - nice point - Basic purpose of sex is to reproduce. to propogate genes/species whatever. over time, this has become a source of entertainment. will try to write about my thoughts some time later..<BR/><BR/>Emotion/sex were buckets within which each individual can define the variety. Details are specific to you.. thanks for sharing :-)Madhukar Hebbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209794588169555167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-15838530194341848702008-11-30T18:35:00.000+05:302008-11-30T18:35:00.000+05:30Having said all this, I am still bullish on gettin...Having said all this, I am still bullish on getting richer by 2 lakhs:-)Gulmoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159638799296171866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-19161978023244178122008-11-30T18:22:00.000+05:302008-11-30T18:22:00.000+05:30Hebbav! It was not long that I had guessed you'll ...Hebbav! It was not long that I had guessed you'll come up with a topic like this one. <BR/><BR/>Yes, it is a perfect articulation to call marriage as an Institution. Nevertheless, sharing emotions and love (as in sex) do not necessarily demand a marriage. I can still manage to have a girlfriend and meet both the said needs. Not to mention that it exists. It is reality. It is not at all unusual to bump into people involved in live-In relationships. I reckon it is getting popular in the East too. <BR/><BR/>I've been thinking on two more things which make marriage more sense to me: <BR/>1. <BR/>The need of support. The need of having someone with me not only to share my emotions but also to come to my rescue. Bluntly put, it is to expect to be looked after at times when it is no more possible to look after myself. It is again a mutual understanding, give and take (It can easily turn into selfishness or selflessness with the just one of them)<BR/><BR/>2. <BR/>I've figured this only recently. The passion to have an offspring. Yes it is to be a parent and experience parenthood. I am convinced that parenting is an intricate and delicate art which poses endless challenges and bliss. <BR/>It is the passion to realize; rather help the Being realize her/his potential<BR/>It is the passion not to repeat the faults that my Parents did while raising me (again this is a subject by itself and one can debate for eternity. But let me keep it simple. It is just to learn from what my parents did and did not)<BR/>It is the passion to put theory into practice<BR/>It is the passion to see and experience my child realize what she/he wanted to realize<BR/>It is the passion to imbibe the values and principles into my child (you could term this as selfishness, but there are a very handful TRUE values that one needs to have and it is only from parents that they come from)<BR/>It is the passion to see the mystery of holy Mother Nature - the miraculous bonding between the Parent and the Child. <BR/><BR/>VSS, I can now quantify the experiences you used to share about your Son. Any comments?<BR/><BR/>I can call the above as instances of your object - Emotional needs. But prefer to have them as separate Objects. Because the properties for me, demand their own existence.Gulmoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159638799296171866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-55306783330835245622008-11-28T11:03:00.000+05:302008-11-28T11:03:00.000+05:30Hebbar,Now it reads better.Friends read the follow...Hebbar,<BR/><BR/>Now it reads better.<BR/><BR/>Friends read the following poem as corollary to Hebbar's article. Although they of chalk and cheese contrast, it will be interesting!!!<BR/><BR/>http://vidyashankarh.blogspot.com/2008/10/blog-post_22.htmlVidyaShankar Harapanahallihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-68436692717741613202008-11-27T20:55:00.000+05:302008-11-27T20:55:00.000+05:30friends, thanks for all your comments and thoughts...friends, thanks for all your comments and thoughts. <BR/><BR/>Have updated the article with <BR/><BR/>1) Some small corrections<BR/>2) Added a section of Conclusion to finally define what I thought was missing in the article.<BR/><BR/>Thanks again!Madhukar Hebbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209794588169555167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-91801388907209474252008-11-27T12:48:00.000+05:302008-11-27T12:48:00.000+05:30Madhukar good attempt at summing it up. I think th...Madhukar good attempt at summing it up. I think the flaw is that you are using just 2 variables to theorize a complex entity such as marriage. Its far too dynamic to be limited by a simple equation involving emotion and sex. Also, while emotional needs covers a huge spectrum the sexual need is pretty specific. Applying both with the same priority and weight would be incorrect. Good sex may be a sanity factor but does not account for good marriages. Emotion on the other hand is far too complicated for me to comment.Shettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157189780186398683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-48019563044659761862008-11-27T12:36:00.000+05:302008-11-27T12:36:00.000+05:30There are couple of things I want to say. First, S...There are couple of things I want to say. First, Sex is a basic instinct. So its no way related to marriage. Marriage is a legal way prescribed in the society to have sex.<BR/>Secondly, Marriage doesnt need to satisfy any emotional needs. Emotion is a mental state that can be controlled only by that individual. For ex: If someones dies, an individual who has more bonding on the person who died will cry more and the person who doesnt have more bonding, will cry less. So what I mean to say here, an individual can control emotions by himself.<BR/>My thought on marriage is a person needs a company to share happiness, sorrows, feelings, moods and all the worldly things with another person who is very close and gives a feel of belonging. Ofcouse this includes sex too. People have thought about this since ages and have made a legal bonding for such a companionship for life, and thats marriage. So as the saying goes <BR/>"Arthecha kamecha dharmecha nati charami" which means righteously, financially, by desire, or spiritually, I will not walk away.Critichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07943033904634546781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-61565943027561338572008-11-27T12:27:00.000+05:302008-11-27T12:27:00.000+05:30This comment has been removed by the author.Critichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07943033904634546781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-45224307947902590802008-11-27T11:12:00.000+05:302008-11-27T11:12:00.000+05:30There is a flaw somewhere in the logic. I am not s...There is a flaw somewhere in the logic. I am not sure where, probably that is the reason it looks incomplete. <BR/><BR/>The theory looks at "2 individuals" perpspective only. Not considering all the external elements. An attempt to figure out what paramters gel too people together in marriage.<BR/><BR/>Article doesn't say sex is bad. Article says Yogis, sadhus etc. have no need for sex.<BR/><BR/>if I get time today will go through it again to see, where it has gone wrong. Else will pull it out in the evening.Madhukar Hebbarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209794588169555167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953728772000350179.post-71651265960438548912008-11-27T06:49:00.000+05:302008-11-27T06:49:00.000+05:30I guess you are going to complete this article? Lo...I guess you are going to complete this article? Looks incomplete to me...<BR/><BR/>Family is smallest unit of society. As civilization progressed, there was need for more organized society. Everything else looks secondary to me. <BR/><BR/>Yogi's never got married but did have sex. They never said sex is bad, AFAIK. Yogi's never wanted to settle down as their main mission would be sidelined.VidyaShankar Harapanahallihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04936566891011003814noreply@blogger.com